Something I heard on the news, or radio or tv, can’t remember which it was.. but what I heard got me to thinking.. “What have you done for your marriage today?”.. well, I began thinking.. What had I done for my marriage today?
I have been so busy working, taking care of kids, church, school, and tons of other things, that sometimes I forget about my marriage. Somehow we seem to think that our running, cooking, cleaning, washing, tending to kids and everything else is part of our marriage.. when it’s not. Those things are a product of our marriage, but our marriage is between the two of us.
It’s the time we take out for each other, the things we used to do to show each other we care.. what did we do before and just after we got married? Hmmmm let’ see.. he used to take me to the movies, just him and I, we used to just get in the car and go riding and talking.. some times he would just get me a card, or I would just snuggle up to him. But in the midst of things we somehow have lost that.
Do we still love each other? Very much so… but somehow in the middle of growing with each other, we have somehow lost those little things between each other. We have gotten away from all those little things we used to do.
Now, I did go to hubby and ask him.. what do I do for you? And he’s like, well.. you clean, cook, do my wash, take care of Jessie… I said I know I do those things.. but what do I do for YOU to complete you? Well, he had to stop and say…… hmmmm haha.. now he’s not a man that does well with telling feelings and mushy stuff haha.. but he let me know how he feels. So I told him, ya know, we need to do something for our marriage each and every day.. something that shows each other how we feel. Doesn’t have to be anything major but just something.
So the next day I called him at work and just told him.. you know, I sure do love you. He’s like, I love you too.. now I tell him all the time, but it was a bit different this time. With more excitement hahaha.. and believe it or not, he heard that in my voice and it made a difference on how he told me he loved me back.
So now, instead of thinking that cooking, cleaning and all that stuff I do is saying I love you (and it does) I will stop and think each day of some little something I can do just for him.. something that says something between just the two of us and not for everyone else.
Why? Because this is the person that I will be growing old with, the one who will set back with me when everyone else is gone.. This is the person that God sent to me after a life of hell at times.. this was my best friend in high school and it took many years later for us to meet up again and have the life we have now. I loved him back in school and I love him now…. And want to show what he does to complete me. In spite of his quirks and things he can do to annoy me, I still love him.
So today and every day I will find some little something to do for MY Marriage and make it better each and every day.
What have you done for your marriage today?